Do you often feel like you get taken advantage of, in work or personal relationships, because of your kind heart?
Or maybe you're tired of always attracting the same experiences that leave you feeling used, not appreciated, and depleted.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but being vulnerable and honest about your needs will create better relationships with others -- and yourself!
What if you could:
If anything you read so far has struck a chord, it's because I have been where you are right now.
In my corporate career, I have over-achieved and people-pleased myself right into the position of Senior VP of Human Resources. I was making it all happen and my bosses loved me!
However, I always felt the need to control the situation to make sure I kept up that image, which led me to neglect my needs. I wasn't focused on the things that truly mattered to me.
It showed up big time in my personal relationships, too, which left me feeling unfulfilled, lonely, and resentful. I was so used to "getting it done" at work by striving and proving, that it's what I did in my personal life, too. Needless to say, it didn't work, and I couldn't put my finger on exactly why...
I started working on myself and reconnecting to who I truly was. I realized that my work environment was not nurturing to who I was as a person, and it led me to put in my notice.
Then something strange happened: I started to be more honest, free, and vulnerable in those last two weeks, when the pressure of people-pleasing and over-extending was no longer there. And the crazy thing is, my bosses and co-workers took notice! I was able to create more meaningful connections and relationships in those last few weeks than in the 10+ years in that position.
That's when I knew I was onto something.
Since then, I have been exploring and teaching about how vulnerability, openness, and honesty leads to greater connection and healing. Now I don't have to work nearly as hard to prove myself, and I have the space and energy to focus on the things that are truly important to me. I want the same for you!
After working in Human Resources for my entire career, and healing through my own routine people-pleasing and over-extending, what I've realized is this:
The more you focus on what is important to you, set your boundaries, and communicate those things with vulnerability -- the more you genuinely connect with others, and feel freedom in doing so.
Once you start working on your own transformation and get re-connected to yourself, the rest will fall into place.
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